More often than not, we are affected by those around us. When we surround ourselves with negative people, we will most likely become negative. This is because, much like positive energy, negative energy is contagious. Even if it is a single person with negative energy around us, it is still a big risk we shouldn't take for long.
Being around negativism is never easy, especially when you are naturally a positive soul. Instead of your spirit striving in such an environment, it will be drained slowly. Besides the obvious loss of positivity it will bring, being around negative energy can be quite toxic and detrimental. It can foster a mindset of cynicism, fatalism, and even defeatism. When you find yourself on this path, things can easily go south.
In light of the foregoing, it appears staying away from negative people is one of the best things you can do to be in the right frame of mind always. This is not always easy because it is impossible to have everyone around us develop a positive outlook on life. From negative partners to negative family members, friends, or coworkers, we must always deal with people with a questionable vibe. How can we protect ourselves from the energy they radiate? Is it possible to do this without engaging? Here, we will briefly discuss six powerful strategies that can be very helpful:
Focus On the Solutions and Not the Problems
Anyone can identify the problems in any situation. It is not bad to know exactly what the problem is, but it is wrong and detrimental to focus on the problem. When you do, you will only feed it and escalate its negative effects. When you focus on people’s negative energy, it will appear as if you are constantly complaining, finding faults, and being dissatisfied with everything about others.
Instead of focuses on the problems, try to focus on what you know is the best solution to their attitude. Sometimes, the solution can be as simple as not getting into an argument with the individual with a negative vibe. The solutions may also take the form of taking simple steps to get the momentum started. Whatever solution you feel works, focus on it rather than the problem.
Do Not Feed the Drama
More often than not, negative people love drama. They crave it and will not hesitate to drag you into their mess. You shouldn’t fall for their antics by giving in and feeding the drama. When you notice that they are craving drama, make up your mind to refuse the bait.
More than most of us realize, it is pretty easy to take the breath of a negative person away. The trick is to refuse whatever bait they put out, no matter how tempting it may be. If you are working on a project, focus on it with renewed energy. Try as much as possible to keep to time. You should also be calm and flexible. This way, you will give the individual with negative energy nothing to work with.
Establish and Maintain Healthy Boundaries
You can achieve a lot by being calm towards those around you, but it helps to establish and maintain healthy boundaries. This is important when it becomes obvious that you must see and interact with someone with negative energy for the foreseeable future (a coworker, for instance). You can't get them out of your life at the moment, but you can always watch your boundaries.
You don’t have to spell it out for the negative person. From the way you interact with them, they will know the boundaries that are not to be crossed. It may require that you speak up about things you don’t accept whenever necessary. In time, the negative individual will start respecting these boundaries.
Quit Trying To Fix Everyone and Everything
There is a limit to what you can do for others, and you need to realize this as early as possible. You can’t fix everyone, no matter how hard you try. In fact, you may ruin your relationships and reputation if you keep trying to do for others what they should do for themselves. At that point, you are not really helping but enabling their bad habits/attitudes.
Don't expect to fix everyone and everything. In most instances, attempting that will result in unintentional production of negative energy. Learn when to steer clear of some situations and let some people sort themselves out.
Find Ways to Respond Without Reacting
Do you know the difference between a response and a reaction? A response flows from mental clarity and emotional strength, while a reaction flows from fear-based survival impulses. Responses are well-thought-out and aim to produce desired outcomes, but reactions are uncontrollable reflexes that don't always yield reasonable results.
You need to respond thoughtfully in the face of negative energy rather than react to them. A proper response will quench the fire of negativism, but an ungraded reaction will only add fuel to it.
You Are the Priority: Take Care Of Yourself
The truth that most of us fail to admit is that we can’t honestly care for others if we can’t truly care for ourselves. You need to realize that you are the center of your world, and you have to take care of yourself before taking care of others. Self-care is not selfish.
Make your happiness your priority, and that will give you a clear perspective on how to relate with others and stay strong even in the face of negative energy.
Endnote
Negative energy can harm you in different ways if you don’t know how to handle those around you. Be smart about protecting yourself from negative energy. We are sure the six tips here can help a lot.